I’m not a fan of one-size-fits-all anything and ‘live, love, life’ chalk-writing memes make me feel physically queasy. What I am a fan of though, is taking control. Not in a dictatorial sense, but in the sense that the only person who can really make me do anything is me; if I want things to be different, I have the power.
I’m not suggesting for a minute that anyone should shirk their responsibilities (real responsibilities, like caring for children), but I think that there’s an element of, ‘I need to do ALL of these things,’ in so many of us and, in reality, we don’t.
Ten Tasks is a series of actions which I have taken in the past which make me feel better. They won’t all be useful for you and some might make you feel down-right uncomfortable, but they’re actions which might just help you to see the wood for the trees and continue on your way with a fresh sense of optimism, feeling in control and being your wonderful, brilliant self.
What is it that you’d like to be different? What is it that you want? How would you describe it to someone else? Write it down; draw it; imagine it. Be as detailed as you can and think carefully about how you will feel when that change has happened. What will you be doing differently?…Read More
Write down, draw, think about everything that’s going well. Be really specific and think of everything you can, from making the bed to booking a service for the boiler to applying for a new job. Leave no stone unturned! ANYTHING that’s gone or is going well, actively acknowledge it.Read More
Be brave and bold. Tell someone else what you’d like to be different. Don’t feel the need to explain yourself or justify it, just tell them. Telling people allows you to hold yourself accountable because they’re bound to ask how it’s going! If you can, ask them to check in on your progress occasionally; not…Read More
You know what you want but it still feels out of reach, yes? Set yourself some tiny goals to achieve your main aim. Make the tasks so small that you can achieve one right now. For instance, it’s no good to have a target of doing some exercise today if you’re still in your pyjamas;…Read More
What have you already achieved? How far have you got towards your main aim?* Look at all of the small goals you’ve achieved along the way. How do you feel about having achieved them? Tell someone; tell everyone! Be proud of yourself. *If you’ve not got far, go back to Task 4 and reset your…Read More
(I love donkeys!) Stick with it. You’ve done brilliantly so far. Go back to Task 1 and remind yourself of all the little details you chose at the start. Add to them; refine them; be sure about what it is that you want. Being stubborn and focussed doesn’t have to be detrimental to anyone; be…Read More
Where are you stuck? What’s stopping you from moving on? Do you need to ask for help? Don’t be afraid to get someone else to look at the problem with you. Have a hunt around for an expert if you think that’s what you need. Ask your friends if they have any suggestions to get…Read More
Who’s got your back? Who’s supporting your change? Who is helping you? Listen to them. These are the people who will deliver the hard messages, but will always want you to succeed. Who’s telling you that you can’t? Who’s saying it’s too hard? Ignore them (especially if it’s your inner voice). Find your cheerleaders and…Read More
How well have you done? What has got you to this point? How do you know you’ve done brilliantly? Look back at your small goals and actively tick off the ones you achieved. Your focus might have shifted lately and obstacles may have presented themselves, but look at how you’ve dealt with them. YOU have…Read More