I’m not a fan of one-size-fits-all anything and ‘live, love, life’ chalk-writing memes make me feel physically queasy. What I am a fan of though, is taking control. Not in a dictatorial sense, but in the sense that the only person who can really make me do anything is me; if I want things to be different, I have the power.
I’m not suggesting for a minute that anyone should shirk their responsibilities (real responsibilities, like caring for children), but I think that there’s an element of, ‘I need to do ALL of these things,’ in so many of us and, in reality, we don’t.
Ten Tasks is a series of actions which I have taken in the past which make me feel better. They won’t all be useful for you and some might make you feel down-right uncomfortable, but they’re actions which might just help you to see the wood for the trees and continue on your way with a fresh sense of optimism, feeling in control and being your wonderful, brilliant self.
What have you already achieved? How far have you got towards your main aim?* Look at all of the small goals you’ve achieved along the way. How do you feel about having achieved them? Tell someone; tell everyone! Be proud of yourself. *If you’ve not got far, go back to Task 4 and reset your…Read More
You know what you want but it still feels out of reach, yes? Set yourself some tiny goals to achieve your main aim. Make the tasks so small that you can achieve one right now. For instance, it’s no good to have a target of doing some exercise today if you’re still in your pyjamas;…Read More
Be brave and bold. Tell someone else what you’d like to be different. Don’t feel the need to explain yourself or justify it, just tell them. Telling people allows you to hold yourself accountable because they’re bound to ask how it’s going! If you can, ask them to check in on your progress occasionally; not…Read More
Write down, draw, think about everything that’s going well. Be really specific and think of everything you can, from making the bed to booking a service for the boiler to applying for a new job. Leave no stone unturned! ANYTHING that’s gone or is going well, actively acknowledge it.Read More
What is it that you’d like to be different? What is it that you want? How would you describe it to someone else? Write it down; draw it; imagine it. Be as detailed as you can and think carefully about how you will feel when that change has happened. What will you be doing differently?…Read More